The Messy Middle

What is your intention for this week?

Setting one or more very specific intentions each week (personally I do it every day because I’ve witnessed the enormous positive effects it has on my life) truly does increase our awareness of our desired outcomes which in turn aims us much more truly in the direction of said outcomes. Shoot for the moon, land among the stars…

Along your journey, please join me in remembering this as often as needed: progress is NEVER linear. One of my mentors says “there are no straight lines in nature, and yet nature always finds a way.”

Ebbs and flows. Steps forward and backward. Occasional giant leaps but mostly meaningful baby steps (and stumbles). There are no straight lines. It is when we convince ourselves that perfection is a real, attainable goal that we truly experience the most (self-inflicted) pain.

You are exactly where you are supposed to be right now.

And, if you feel like you aren’t where you “should” be (not a fan of the word “should” at all, by the way since should is, in itself, a generally critical self-judgement) rest in the awareness that you have all the tools you need to take the next small step towards wherever you want to go within you right now – you always have and you always will. The small, consistent steps are really the ones that lead us to those big, sometimes seemingly insurmountable goals throughout our lives.

Take the next small step. Interrupt the thought process every time you find yourself thinking about the falseness of perfection and instead find joy and learn from all the small steps we all GET TO take to get wherever it is we are aiming to go.

Join me with love and gratitude in the messy middle and trust the process – the beautiful, messy, lovely, ugly, joyful, painful, incredibly awesome process of personal growth – mind, body, and spirit.

If it doesn’t challenge you and take you outside your comfort zone, it won’t yield the results you’re after. I’ve found that meaningful, sustainable growth generally doesn’t happen without overwhelm and growing pains, however, I’ve also found the expressing intense gratitude on a very regular basis massively alleviates those pesky growing pains.

So keep going, because you deserve to explore your dreams, and the world needs as much love as it can get.

P.S. This is me writing to myself to process my emotions – I hope it serves you, too.


  1. Jim Harless says

    Daniele. When you and I did a review of my plan to eat only one to two carbs per meal a year or two back I had trouble to follow the plan, I seemed to feed lows too often for success. I was on Novalog 70/30 mix. But now I am doing Lantus as background and using mealtime short acting insulin according to my meal carb count so think this prior plan might work for me now. The use of intermediate speed and short speed mixed insulin cost less, but was a barrier. Best. Jim.

    • DiabetesDominator says

      Hi Jim, I remember our talk and know that I would not recommend that someone follow a plan of eating only 1-2 grams of carbs per meal as that is highly restrictive and likely an unattainable goal that will cause feelings of failure very quickly which is counterproductive to building a sustainable healthy nutritional lifestyle. If that is something that you aim to do I am in no way knocking it, but from years of nutritional coaching I don’t personally feel it is a realistic goal for the vast majority of people. I do, however, think that switching from 70/30 to a long and short acting insulin combo is a much better way to achieve improved BG results over time. Wishing you the best of luck with whatever you choose to do!

  2. Joe Holland like you didn't know : ) says

    Those who believe there are no straight lines in nature have never looked to the horizon across a calm ocean or Great Lake. I would suggest saying there are no straight paths in nature.

    • DiabetesDominator says

      Hi Joe 🙂 I would politely disagree as I’ve looked at many calm ocean horizons and noticed the slight curvature of the Earth every time. But, as we discuss regularly in our Love Yourself to Health group that I LOVE having you in, you know it’s all about each individual’s perspective that drives one forward! Thanks so much for your input, as always!!!

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