What Is Love, & What Does It Have To Do With Personal and Financial Health & Wellness?

Throughout my own personal transformations in all areas of my life, and bearing witness to the wellness/relationship/spiritual/financial/career transformations of thousands of others who achieved things they previously believed unattainable for themselves, I’ve learned one major lesson that always rings true for every kind of change that people embark on achieving:

The amount of overall wellness that you feel every day in every single aspect of your life IS DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL TO the amount of love (self-love/care + love toward others) you are willing to put into practice day to day.

That is why changing your perspective on what love is (how you define/frame it and your perspective on it) is so important, and that is why allowing yourself to non-judgmentally redefine love is SO CRUCIAL to changing ones habits, practices, and choices sustainably and joyfully.

In our current societal structure, the most important things that all humans must have a solid understanding of in order to create a life that consists of more joy than pain are NOT taught in the standard school curriculum in the USA.  

The most basic thing necessary to build a happy, healthy life – understanding what love is (as a noun and a verb) – is simply left up to the individual to figure out on their own, almost like an afterthought.

Understanding, accepting and embracing that love is a daily practice shapes the quality of every aspect of our lives and directly influences our interactions with the most important and unavoidable aspects of human life such as food/nutrition, relationships (with ourselves and others), career choices, finances and all things financial, our ability to understand that we all have unfettered access to emotional management techniques at all times, and so much more, is the missing piece of everything that feels fearful instead of joyful.  

Nutritional and financial practices make or break the very physical, emotional and spiritual states of our entire lives as individuals and as a society, yet most of us are not practicing anything other than burying our heads in the sand so we don’t have to face the intense fear that comes along with valuing ourselves highly and embracing our worthiness of all the good things life has to offer.

I’m focusing on food and finance specifically here because these are two areas that I’ve gone through intense and long-lasting challenges with over the course of my life and have come out on the other side feeling free and less like I’m carrying the weight of the actual Earth on my back, and also because after speaking with thousands of people about their mind, body, spirit wellness journeys over the past eight years, these are the two topics I have found people struggling with more than any others.

Our relationship with food and our relationship with money shapes our entire mind, body, spirit reality every single day – whether it’s full of joy or full of pain or anywhere in between – and I haven’t met a single person who this doesn’t apply to yet.

You might wonder how financial education relates to love. Learning how to manage our finances systematically and consistently and in a way that doesn’t feel stifling is a major practice of self-love – same as nutrition. More than 70% of American families report living paycheck to paycheck and know that they are just one emergency away from total financial crisis. This is an extremely stressful way to live (trust me, I know this from years of previous experience), and it isn’t happening because people are stupid. It is happening because our entire educational system teaching us how to build our lives is critically flawed, and without any mention of love as the practice that is the foundation that all wellness sits upon.

We are taught that debt is “normal” when the whole concept of borrowing money in the ways we do today is a relatively new concept in American history. Debt, along with many mind, body, spirit dis-ease are merely symptoms of a damaged source that is devoid of love as a practice.

Figuring out the best way to manage your finances is a huge aspect of self-love; one that brings great stress relief once a realistic and easy to follow plan is put in place and maintained over time (again, same as nutrition).  A disciplined strategy for everyday management of income, spending, saving, and investing for future goals leads to the feeling that a heavy burden has been lifted from your being, opening up infinite space for personal growth and contribution, and will undoubtedly result in a life that is filled with more joy than pain.

There is no human being alive who doesn’t need to know how these things work, lest they create a life where there is seemingly constant pain coming from their own health and financial situations. If you really take a minute to think about it, I would imagine that there aren’t too many people you know (including yourself) that don’t find these areas of life stressful and sometimes hopelessly unmanageable.

What does all this have to do with love? EVERYTHING. Love is the only foundation on which all of these practices that literally shape the reality of our lives, our emotions, our relationships with ourselves and others, our health and our happiness, our ability to experience joy and gratitude every day, can be built sustainably. Love is a decision that only you can make, and one you must make over and over again. 

Love is nourishing your body and the bodies of those you may prepare foods for with nutrient dense foods and proper hydration more often than not. Love is giving yourself and those you love the gift of learning that your income is your most important wealth building tool—no matter how much money you are currently earning—and how to budget your income as an empowering practice in a way that actually feels good and gives you a sense of control you may have never felt before over your own choices.

If the majority of people were taught to and willing to practice implementing love into their daily lives as much as they are willing to practice watching TV, scrolling through social media, watching the news, talking about other people, etc., then we would all be in much better shape (in all areas). I can only speak from my own personal experience (and walking beside thousands of others through personal transformations), having myself been addicted to some of the previously listed things at one point or another (TV + social media particularly), and the difference it made when I consciously and intentionally MASSIVELY changed my priorities in life is almost indescribable, but I’m trying to communicate that here and now.  

I say all of this from a place of extensive and painful personal experience. There was a long time in my life where I had no idea about nutrition (having been obese with an eating disorder for many years while living with type 1 diabetes), let alone a detailed and ever-growing understanding of how nutrition influences and interacts with human anatomy and physiology, and have now been the “Diabetes Dominator” for more than eight years with the blessing of guiding others on their paths to creating the relationship with nutrition they’ve always dreamed about.

There was a long time in my life where my husband and I were in massive debt and barely making the minimum monthly payments on said debts (sidebar: we are still in debt, but have consciously and intentionally learned and implemented a ton together as a team, are in a MUCH better place than we were just one year ago let alone five or ten years ago, and can actually see the debt-free light at the end of the tunnel… and it feels AMAZING).

If you are willing to change your perspective on what love is, what it means, how you practice it, and embracing that love is who you are at your very core therefore admitting your infinite self-worth, your life will forever change for the better starting immediately in all areas, and the more you practice, the better and better things get.

The foundational love principles listed below are adapted from one of my most influential mentors/spiritual teachers, Julia Cameron. Her principles cover the basics of creativity, which have guided me immensely in my writing and spiritual practices.

Having these foundational principles (listed below) in mind all of the time has allowed me to learn, grow, and continually remind myself what love is, how it relates to my ability to create wellness in all areas of my life, that I am love, and that at any moment I have the free will to choose love over fear.

Practicing love daily is the missing piece, the secret sauce, the one trick that you have been missing, that one thing you haven’t tried when trying to reach whatever goal that seems to always be just out of reach. Practicing love is the magic secret tool that everyone has access to, yet is rarely taught as the foundational principle of creating sustainable change in all aspects of life.

Consciously and intentionally embodying these principles have been invaluable to me in my own personal growth in every single aspect of my life, and I hope these principles serve you as they do me.

I have them printed out and hung up on the wall in my bedroom so I can always easily remember that love is my guiding compass on all decision making processes, not fear.

Foundational Love Principles:

  1. Love is the natural order of life. We are born knowing only love. All other emotions are learned by conditioning.
  2. There is an energetic current and vibration of love that exists in all of life – including ourselves.
  3. When we open ourselves to love – giving love, receiving love, consciously choosing to act from a place of love, and knowing that we ourselves are loveable and fully deserving of love no matter what – we open ourselves to the Universal force of love that is always present, yet often we’ve been conditioned to ignore it in ourselves and in our lives.
  4. We are, ourselves, love. And we, in turn, are meant to continue being love, regardless of any circumstances in our lives – past or present.
  5. Love is God’s/the Universe’s/the Cosmos’s/Infinite Intelligence’s gift to us. Consciously making all decisions from a place of love is our gift back to God/the Universe/the Cosmos/Infinite Intelligence.
  6. The refusal to be love – to admit that we are loveable and deserving of love from others – is a personal (often unconscious) choice, and in direct opposition to our true nature.
  7. When we open ourselves to exploring our true nature of love, we open ourselves to the Universal current and energetic vibration of love which aligns us with everything else in existence. We are all one – we are all connected.
  8. As we open our minds and hearts to the acceptance of love as our true nature, many incredibly powerful synchronistic changes are to be expected in all areas of life.
  9. It is safe to open ourselves up to greater and greater love.
  10. Our dreams and longings come from the divine Universal source of love. As we allow ourselves to move towards our dreams, we move towards our divinity.

My husband and I wrote an easy to read bestselling book on exactly how to use the power of love as a practice that shapes every single aspect of your life positively because over the years we have found that consciously and intentionally deciding to practice love has by far been the most game-changing principal of creating the type of sustainable circumstances we want in all areas of our lives.  

Stay tuned for my next blog where I will talk about the fear-based beliefs that can get in the way of creating daily love practices if we aren’t conscious and aware of them, plus how to kick them to the curb when they show up!  

With that in mind, let’s consciously choose to be more loving today, both toward ourselves and others, because you deserve it and the world needs as much love as it can get.


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